Before spouting your “everyone knows”, no evidence, not science, not helpful advice in blog spaces where your input was neither asked for nor welcomed, I very strongly suggest that you actually read the material presented in said blog.
In case your attention span is so painfully short that you can’t possibly make it through more than a single entry, or that your research skills are akin to the average 5 year old’s - here are a few select bits of reading that you really should try to make it through, because - well, not only are you inapprorpriate, you’re wrong.
http://www.nutritionj.com/content/10/1/9 - “Randomized controlled clinical trials indicate that a HAES approach is associated with statistically and clinically relevant improvements in physiological measures (e.g., blood pressure, blood lipids), health behaviors (e.g., eating and activity habits, dietary quality), and psychosocial outcomes (such as self-esteem and body image), and that HAES achieves these health outcomes more successfully than weight loss treatment and without the contraindications associated with a weight focus.”
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/02/health/study-suggests-lower-death-risk-for-the-overweight.html?hp&_r=1& - “The report on nearly three million people found that those whose B.M.I. ranked them as overweight had less risk of dying than people of normal weight. And while obese people had a greater mortality risk over all, those at the lowest obesity level (B.M.I. of 30 to 34.9) were not more likely to die than normal-weight people.”
http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/05/can-you-be-fat-and-fit-or-thin-and-unhealthy/ - “In a new study by U.S. and European researchers, published [PDF] in the European Heart Journal, overweight and obese people were found to be at no greater risk of developing or dying from heart disease or cancer, compared with normal weight people, as long as they were metabolically fit despite their excess weight.”
Yours with actual thought,
Video of a slam poet who’s a beautiful fat woman dating thin man - she nails it in 10.
Kickstarter for a feature-length documentary that exposes how popular culture fosters fat prejudice and then offers an alternative way of thinking.
THIS!! So much this — If people applied these standards to the weight loss instructions and OMG-fat-is-deadly claims that get touted every day, I bet there would be almost none that got repeated more than once!
A very good read about privilege - not the body size privilege I usually refer to, but racial privilege.
The other day I saw a post on FB a number of times - it was a status that had gone viral, posted by someone who saw a fat person running at a track and decided to sort of kind of say something they though was encouraging. Lots of folks were applauding them for being supportive and adding comments like “hey even if they just did one lap, they are doing something!”
I neither commented nor re-posted this because something about it was bothering me. I couldn’t quite put it into words, but reading it left me feeling like the person who had been seen running was being used, judged, measured for their worth somehow…. and it left me feeling not just uninspired, but angry.
Yesterday on my feed I saw a response from the object of the original post - where he talks about how totally wrong the story about him that the original poster ‘made up’ really was and how insulted he was by the entire message. (you can read both parts here: http://groupthink.jezebel.com/inspiration-youre-doing-it-wrong-1540633035/@burtreynoldsismyspiritguide1?utm_content=buffera4420&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer)
And then this morning I stumbled on a discussion in one of my belly dance groups where someone who’s personal journey included weight loss was trying to insist that her experience of being healthier and happier at her new ‘straight size’ weight was the one true right experience, and that her ‘preaching’ to overweight people about how wrong it was to love your plus size body as it is and how important it was for them to lose weight, was the right thing to do if it motivated even just 1 person to do it.
and now my thoughts are a little clearer…. Strangers, co-workers, acquaintances and passers-by certainly don’t need your unsolicited advice on what’s right for their body, and you know what? Friends and family members actually don’t either. If they want to hear from you about your personal experiences or thoughts on the subject, they will ask you for them. To make the assumption that they really do want (or need) to hear it from you implies that they aren’t even smart enough to ask for themselves. It says that you think they are so clueless that they are completely unaware of the pleuthera of messages they received every single day from billboards, TV, magazines, radio and movies about how society believes their body is a bad thing and that they could not possibly have done any thinking for themselves, done any of their own research, or come to any of their own reasonable conclusions about their own bodies. That they couldn’t possibly *know* anything about the subject at all. And that is not at all supportive or helpful - it’s rude, condescending and, well, mean.
There is a world of difference between hearing someone say “I started running every day and I’m loving it!” and replying with “Hey that’s awesome!” and seeing someone running and assuming that they just started and need your help to make sure that they continue because their body happens to be fatter than yours.
This is written by a man named Chris Serong - and seriously, whether you are male or female, go read it. I’ll wait…..
The things he says about not needing to have that “ideal” body in order to have plenty to teach in a fitness industry resonated so strongly with me.
"It’s not your job to look any way at all. But it’s one thing to say, and it’s another to bare your belly for inspiration. As a trainer, it’s your job to teach, and instruct, and if you want to ‘be a role model’ – because hey, that comes into it too – I still get ‘the fantasy of being thin’ thing arising from time to time, but I’ve been around long enough now – my job as a role model is to boldly say that you don’t have to be a dick about your body or other people’s bodies to set a good example for the kids. You don’t have to harm yourself in the name of health.”
I love belly dance, the way my body feels when I’m doing it, the shapes and patterns I can weave with steps and undulations, the strength and flexibility I can feel in my body as I practice it. -and while I may not be the worlds best belly dancer, I’m good at it. The love I have for belly dance along with my desire to share it and my understanding of the movements and body mechanics, the music and the history of this dance form mean that I have things to teach. and so, I teach belly dance.
Sometimes when a new student walks into my classroom I can tell that they are surprised by how I look, by the shape of my body. Sometimes they shake it off and leap into that first lesson and sometimes I can tell that they step out onto the studio floor intending to skate through what they believe will be an easy class where they will learn nothing.
a few have even confessed to me after class that this is what they thought.
What they find instead is that what I do and teach builds strength, grace, muscle control and coordination and that to do it so that it looks easy requires hard work and practice - lots and lots of practice. That, if they are willing to put in the work I can help them get better at it without injuring their backs or knees.
as Chris Serong says in his blog post:
“You don’t need to be different from what you are to be worthy of respect.”
sometimes you don’t have to write it yourself… because someone else did it really really well already.